You might think that going to see an osteopath is really a pretty simple job: you lie there: I do something. Da na! You can go back to your life and you are fixed. I've waved my magic wand and you can go back to slumping at the desk for 8 hours a happier person.
Of course really changing the symptoms involves changing something else. Doesn't it?
Old Einstein is often quoted as saying the definition of insanity is:
"doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results"
But of course we all do it. We want the cake and want to eat it too. And the buns, biscuits, chocolates....We want our bodies to feel great without getting up off the sofa or off the tablet/phone/computer.
So when it comes to therapy and working with someone therapeutically, we may have a large wall to cimb to get over this kind of thinking and the assumptions that lie behind it. Because they are often the only thing really in the way of getting better.
Imagine, for example that a doctor or consultant you saw told you in your childhood about a symptom or inury that nothing could be done and "you'd have to live with it"or even "it will only get worse as you get older".
Imagine that you've just come to that conclusion yourself over the years "I won't ever get better".
These are things, sadly, that I hear a lot. And you can imagine how likely it will be that that person responds well to treatment with that belief deeply embedded in their sunconscious. Because that belief is going to want to find evidence that supports it. And every little tweak or twinge can be seen as proof that treatment isn't working and nothing is any different.
And of course that person was probably being honest based on their knowlege and capabilities. But medicine, science and particularly neuroscience continues to move on massively. We know realise the power of the mind behind our decisions, choices,motivations, successes or failures in sport and our careers, our parenting, our relationships and as a result, health and our experience of life on earth.
Many of the things that doctor was stumped at knowing what to suggest, other people specialise in and make a difference to daily. From my own practice, adding acupuncture for example has helped me get someone with polycystic ovaries having regular periods again, who hadn't for over 10 years. When I learned rehabilitation, again I can do things now I never was taught on my 5 year Osteopathy degree.
Today millions of people live with their diseases and manage them now, rather than dying of them. Understanding and knowledge advances and moves on.
So we use some cunning, and quite intelligent stuff here. making the assumption that the person has come for treatment to get out of pain and suffering and would genuinely like this situation to change. And may need some help getting out of their own way.
The first is to try to create at Qi to Health what Nancy Kline author of Time to Think calls a "listening environment". This has ten components:
- Attention: Listening with respect interest and fascination
- Incisive questions: removing assumptions that limit ideas
- Equality: treating each other as thinking peers
- Appreciation: practicing a 5:1 ratio of appreciation to criticism
- Ease: offering freedom from rush or urgency
- Feelings: allowing sufficient emotional release to restore thinking
- Information: providing a full and accurate picture of reality
- Place: creating a physical environment that says back to people "you matter"
- Diversity: adding quality because of the differnces between us.
I'll leave you with a bit of Cat Stevens, because I like the lyrics "think alot" and what's not to like about a man with a guitar? Father and Son
And if you decide it is time to make a change... give me a call.